I am executor of my mom's estate and I want my brother and sister to pay an equal portion to pay off the home and also the legal fees. We all got equal shares of a life insurance policy. We each got six figure's so I don't see a problem. But I don't want conflict so I am hesitant to ask. But the legal fees is no negotiation, I expect to be helped.Right now I feel like my whole family with the exception of my grandparents and my girlfriend, have moved on with their lives while I am stuck to pick up the pieces. Why do I have to come begging to my own family for help? My life is on hold right now and I have had to take a lot of time off of work to handle the estate. I am tired! Is it too much to ask for a little financial piece of mind? I spend the week working and handling estate issues and then on the weekend's my girlfriend and I go through my mom's paperwork and belongings. Nobody else really seems to give a shyt. I'm not angry at them just frustrated and disappointed.As far as the legal fee's I am talking about the lawyer, not court fees. And the money we received did not go through probate since it was life insurance with designated beneficiaries so that was out of my control.

no

that is fair. dont feel bad at all. im sure your mom would look at this as a fair solution

naa. not at all

naw its not wrong, i would tell them to help out and not ask

just tell them what you expect of them and if they are resistant tell them how frustrated and disappointed you are with the whole situation and they will come through for you (even if it is begrudgingly). you have no choice but to tell them. don't ask.

If there is an estate filed in probate, the legal fees come off the top before any disbursements so you don't have to worry about that.

No and they should feel obligated to help as well. It'll only be greedy on their part if they don't help. It's not about money in their pockets, *or at least it shouldn't be* but the fact is, they share the same mother right? Then why should you be worried about asking. I say ask them to help. It's ridiculous for you to do that on your on. And you have every right to be frustrated and disappointed and angry. This was all of your mother, and they can't even help?

There should be no reason why you can't ask your family for help.You just lost your mother for criminy sake. Your siblings should be coming to ask You if you need help.They should not leave the financial up to you and take the money and run.The money from the insurance should pay for the things needed to be paid and then split between you and your siblings. That way no one is financially straped.

If they haven't offered to help then I would think that they aren't gonna be happy when they are asked. You need to tell them that they need to help. She was their mother too. Its not fair that you get stuck with all the bills........