all of your reasons to stay are just excuses that can be easily fixed if and when you ask the right people to help.here's a few reasons to leave....do you want your teens, who are just around the corner from adulthood, to think that this is what marriage is about?what do you think will happen the next time he throws you across the room?

Everything you have wrote above is just excuses. Leave now first he laid his hands on you second you are recovering from a stroke that makes the whole thing even worst. now a response to each one of your excuses you have a medical condition apply for medical assistance through the state plus as long as you are still married he has to carry you and when you go for a separation and divorce you can get that as a stipulation that he has to carry you for so long second let them make the choice on who they want to live with and which school they want to go to or just find a house or apartment in there current school Thrid I am sure you love your dogs but leaving your dogs behind so you do not get beaten by your husband is ok believe me they are only dogs when youa re at this point. And about your last question an affair is when you have any sexual contact with another person from kissing to doing the deed. Leave him before you even go hang out with your ex that way he is not get pissed if he finds out and throws you again. So I guess what I am saying is it does not sound like you are ready to leave cuz you sure have alot of excuses but if you are call your local domestic violence they might beable to help you tooo

I would not tolerate this. He is abusing you and you cannot put up with it. I would have told him the same thing. It is even worse that he did that to you with your medical problems. Meeting an ex and flirting is leading to an affair. I would not do that. You need to get this mess straightened out. None of these are good reasons for you to stay and take this. He can go and live with his mama.